Dating site dynamics
Indeed, there are 1.5 million more non-college-educated men than women among Americans age 22 to 29.
Bottom line: New York City women looking for a match would be better off, statistically at least, at a fireman’s bar in Staten Island than a wine bar on the Upper East Side.
The good news, at least according to the work of psychologists and sex-ratio pioneers Marcia Guttentag and Paul Secord, is that people tend to have better sex when ratios skew female. Women frequently wind up being treated as sex objects, and men are more inclined to exercise the option to delay marriage and play the field.
As I note in my book, today’s uneven gender ratios “add up to sexual nirvana for heterosexual men, but for heterosexual women — especially those who put a high priority on getting married and having children in wedlock — they represent a demographic time bomb.” Of course, these lopsided numbers might not matter if young, college-educated women become more willing to date — and, eventually, marry — across socioeconomic lines.
But for college-educated women, excluding working-class guys makes their dating math much more challenging.
If there is an undersupply of men in the college-educated dating pool, there is going to be an oversupply of men in the non-college-educated one.
Unsurprisingly, men tend to be less — I’ll say it — promiscuous when women are more scarce.
The imbalance has spilled over into the post-college dating scene.
Consequently, the different-sex dating markets in these cities are worse for women than the overall census numbers imply.
DATE-ONOMICS illustrates that Manhattan’s hetero, college-grad, under-30 dating pool has three women for every two men — which, like it or not, is exactly the sort of sexual playground for men portrayed by Vanity Fair.
Regardless of orientation, not all women, of course, place a premium on marriage, or even monogamy.
But for the straight, college-educated woman who is eager to get married and start a family, the question becomes how best to deal with a dating market in which men have too much leverage.